Friday, October 16, 2009
What is love?
It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said ?Love all?
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But ?love? is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.
Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said ?Love all?
Depending on context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But ?love? is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy.
In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it.
Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect.
How to Find The Right Guy For You??
Step 1
Make a list of what you like. Did you ever used to day dream about Prince Charming? What did he say to you? What was his attitude like? If you find yourself settling for less, you're not looking hard enough. Never settle, there's always someone out there that is right for you. You'll know it when you find it.
Step 2
Sometimes we wrap ourselves up in a relationship right away in order to help ourselves feel less lonely. If this might be the case, you might have entered a relationship under false pretenses. It's not that you really like the guy, or that you think he is right for you, but
Step 3
Do you share some of the same interests? You don't have to like everything he likes, but you do want some commonplace to talk about. It helps when you can spend a little time enjoying the same things. This doesn't mean you should force yourself to become interested in he likes, this might backfire on you.
Step 4
Where's the future? If you can see him in your future, doing normal, everyday things together, then it might be a good relationship. If it is hard to imagine him in the sort of future you want, you might want to reconsider the relationship.
Step 5
Do you feel lonely when he is away? Or do you feel lonely even when he's in the same room as you? There is a difference, and you'll know when you feel it. If you find yourself with him, and day dreaming about someone else, that's a good sign that you might not be as interested as you thought.
Step 6
Can you bring him home, and show him off to family and friends without cringing? Okay, that sounds cold, but every situation is different. The country music singer might seem totally different than your rock and roll lifestyle, but eventually he might seem more annoying than different, once the magic of the moment wears off.
What Does A Guy Want In A Girl?
It is said that ‘Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus’. In other words, it is very difficult for either of the genders to understand the other completely. Especially in a relationship, partners find it quite difficult to understand each other perfectly. Though it is true that every person is unique in his own way and has a distinct personality, the members of a particular sex have at least some common traits. These traits, if learnt at an early stage, can help avoid most of the problems and fights that occur in a relationship.
For now, let us concentrate on the guys only. I can imagine all the women out there complaining that they have done their best to gauge the needs and reactions of their partners, but every time they have turned out to be totally different from what they expected. It is true that understanding a guy is as difficult as comprehending a girl. Still, most of the guys share some common traits that can serve as your key, to knowing them as much as possible. Read on further and know what qualities men look for in women, both physical and emotional.
How to Know if He Loves You?
How to Know if He Loves You
So, you have been knowing this guy for quite some time now. You love being with him and never feel lonely when he is around. Your face breaks into a smile at the very mention of his name. The first person you think of when you get up in the morning is him. But does he feel the same way about you too? Guys are finicky when it comes to admitting that they like a girl. And more often than not, they end up losing the girl just because it is too late to tell her that he is in love. Just to make it easy for both you and him, we bring you sure shot signs that he loves you. Read on about ways to find if a guy likes you and how to know if he loves you.He takes interest in your day-to-day life. He asks how your day was and feels concerned if anything is wrong. His behavior suddenly changes when you come around. He suddenly mellows down and becomes a bit quieter while chatting with his friends. Dead give away! He remembers almost every small thing that you say. It shows how special you are. He calls up just to listen to your voice and gives a silly reason when you ask as to why did he call. He insists on meeting up every now and then and admits how much he loves being around you. He is good with everyone, but with you he goes that extra mile to ensure comfort. His body language changes when you are there. He displays affection through subtle hints like stroking your cheek slightly, taking your hand in his palms and being less stiff. He looks in your eyes and you feel there is something special about it. He has this shine when he is looking at you. These are some sure signs that tell a guy really likes you. But do not confront him as soon as you find these signs in him. Give him some time to realize that he loves you. On the other hand, you can show him in your own ways that you like him too. You will know the right time to confide, you just do!
So, you have been knowing this guy for quite some time now. You love being with him and never feel lonely when he is around. Your face breaks into a smile at the very mention of his name. The first person you think of when you get up in the morning is him. But does he feel the same way about you too? Guys are finicky when it comes to admitting that they like a girl. And more often than not, they end up losing the girl just because it is too late to tell her that he is in love. Just to make it easy for both you and him, we bring you sure shot signs that he loves you. Read on about ways to find if a guy likes you and how to know if he loves you.He takes interest in your day-to-day life. He asks how your day was and feels concerned if anything is wrong. His behavior suddenly changes when you come around. He suddenly mellows down and becomes a bit quieter while chatting with his friends. Dead give away! He remembers almost every small thing that you say. It shows how special you are. He calls up just to listen to your voice and gives a silly reason when you ask as to why did he call. He insists on meeting up every now and then and admits how much he loves being around you. He is good with everyone, but with you he goes that extra mile to ensure comfort. His body language changes when you are there. He displays affection through subtle hints like stroking your cheek slightly, taking your hand in his palms and being less stiff. He looks in your eyes and you feel there is something special about it. He has this shine when he is looking at you. These are some sure signs that tell a guy really likes you. But do not confront him as soon as you find these signs in him. Give him some time to realize that he loves you. On the other hand, you can show him in your own ways that you like him too. You will know the right time to confide, you just do!
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